Also, from the courts point of view, I’m entitled to half of your shiny new car, especially since my name is on the finance.  At NO point have I requested any share of that.

From: Christie Thacker
Sent: Saturday, 22 November 2014 9:33 PM
To: Raymond Thacker
Subject: Re: package

Thats not how the court will see it. You can even ask you mum how it works. I spoke with her some time ago and when Sue and John split each party had their entitlements. You want to keep the house... I have said we need to sell it and split it. But you believe that you can continue to pay for the house so I have made an offer which is more than reasonable as we were a married couple and lived together. I am not even asking for the full amount that would be half..... I also think you forget about the $10000 that I took out of a term deposit to buy our house. if you do not believe that I am being reasonable then why did you say that sounded fair? And i am not asking for half. I have taken money off so it's actually less than half. what about everything in the house..... have you added up the costs of all of that as well.... have you thought about the court costs if you dont want to continue with the offer I have made. If you are not wanting to do this offer I need to know now as I will be going to the lawyer... thats when there will be fees involved.

If you never trusted Tanya why did you talk to her.... why did you ask her advice and thank her for everything that she did. Has anything she ever said to you been wrong? Why did you say to me not so long ago that you had the right to talk to her as she was also your friend. What you have said is very sad. True friends stick by their friends no matter what. Tanya is a true friend not someone who will just up and go when it gets to much. 

 

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From: Raymond Thacker
Date:2014/11/22 20:32 (GMT+10:00)
To: Christie Thacker
Subject: RE: package

I am also entitled to things.  The legal advice is based on the fact the LEGALLY when we married, our assets became one and therefore when we split they are split in half.  However you are NOT showing integrity when you ask to profit from something that you have not paid for.  An example of perfect integrity is when my parents invested hundreds of thousands of dollars in a business, the business went under and that money was lost.  The law would state that the person who invested the money has now lost the money forever.  However, the business owner has more integrity than that and made arrangements to pay back the money ‘he’ lost.  That person is of course, my brother Steve.  Had he followed lawyers and the letter of the law, he did not owe my parents anything.  However, he is MUCH better than that.  That is what I mean by integrity. 

Prior to moving to Blackburn road, the payment of bills was split across the two of us.  Don’t make me prove that because I can EASILY.  It was only since we moved to Blackburn road as the mortgage went from $1,500 to $2,219 that you paid the majority of the bills because if I paid them, I would be short to pay OUR mortgage.  The bills YOU paid over the four years at McDermott Avenue is absolutely not even close to the $72,000 (Approx. $1,500 per month x 48 months) I paid in Interest alone for the roof over our heads. 

Regarding the clothes, let me say it again, you are not GIVING me clothes because when I hand the boys over to you, they are clothed, when you hand them over to me, they are clothed.  So no-one is losing or gaining clothing, it is simply shifting from house to house as they boys shift from house to house.

When I was talking to Tanya, it was about you and mostly to make sure she had BOTH sides of the story as I could see you giving her only one side as usual.  I was not taking advice from her as I have never fully trusted her either.  My point was that I’m not the only one who doesn’t like her so it’s not my imagination.  As such, I do not want her looking after our boys on her own at any time.  Hesitant, yes, stopping it from happening, no.  Therefore, you trust them enough.  The distance between you and your mother both geographically and emotionally is not my fault or problem.  Once again, you missed my point.  My point was that I trust her to look after the boys, but not Tanya so I do not have ‘double standards’ as you said.  We organised babysitters on MANY occasions so we could go out, and yet you have a problem with me organising one so I can go out.  That IS what I (and anyone else) would call double standards.  I was there for you through all the cheating, giving you plenty of time to stay faithful to me but you fail to recognise that.  Oh and Tanya will NOT be there for you forever I’m telling you now so be prepared for that.

From: Christie Thacker
Sent: Saturday, 22 November 2014 8:02 PM
To: Raymond Thacker
Subject: Re: package

I am entitled to things. I have given you an offer for the house and that is what I have a right too. I have legal advice on that and they have said I am being very fair on what I have offered you. Yes I made mistakes I am not going to deny that. You need to accept the mistakes that you have made also. its not about integrity. I have paid for things along the way to assist with living expenses. I pay for food, house insurance, your car rego as well as mine. And I have always paid the bills. The only bills I don't pay is your car payments and car insurance. everything else I have paid for. I have assisted in setting up a house for a family. I am entitled to havea fair chance.... I could challenge you for the house.... but I am not doing that. I have made a more than reasonable offer ( according to legal advice I would be entilted to more) but I have asked for what I think is reasonable. 

As for the clothes all was trying to say was that if I have to buy clothes for the boys where I am living then I don't want to keep giving them to you as I wont get them back. if that happens every time I will keep running out of clothes. 

So now all of a sudden you are not friends with Tanya.... what happened to talking to her all the time and asking her advice. You cannot say that you didn't trust her... you have been speaking to her for some time. It doesn't matter if your friends don't like Tanya, I am not asking them to be friends with her. Tanya has been there for me no matter what. Do you really think its fair that I ask my mum when she is so far away. You know I have always been hesitant for your parents to have the boys. I have told you that many times. 

 

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From: Raymond Thacker
Date:2014/11/22 18:14 (GMT+10:00)
To: Christie Thacker
Subject: RE: package

I have nerve do I?  You are the one who brought up the fact that you paid for the clothes and were therefore being ‘nice’ by not taking them all from me.  It’s not rocket science, if there isn’t a change of clothes in the bag, then both boys are in clothes during changeover, therefore, we both end up with the same number of clothes.  If you didn’t take enough from here to be able to dress them at Tanya’s house, that is not my responsibility as I have no idea how many clothes you have there.  However you felt the need to bring up the fact that YOU paid for them so YOU should have them.  That is why I brought up the who paid for what conversation, because you have the nerve to bring it up in the first place, I simply responded in the same manner.

Please send me a copy of this form that requires my car details.

As for the care arrangements of the boys, we will be formally discussing and arranging that at some point in the future, that is all I will say on that matter for now.

 

Now, you’re next e-mail where you repeated what you had already said.  I have told Centrelink that we are living separately, even supplied the current address of your residence, so as far as I’m concerned, they have the correct information.  If they have any queries, they can raise them with me.

I only bring up the reason for the divorce because you are constantly looking for what you can benefit from it and fail to recognise that you attacked the foundations of ANY relationship during our first year of marriage, if you constantly damage the foundations of a building, it WILL completely collapse sooner or later.  My monitoring was in place to try and protect the foundations of our relationship (trust and loyalty) and whilst it contributed to you not being happy (I believe because it restricted your ability to cheat of me without me knowing), it was not the fundamental cause of the breakdown.  One day, you might just recognise that.  Let me summarise the last seven years for you.  We met, we dated, we married, we signed up to buy a house together, you cheated, you lied, I ignored it but lost trust in you, we had Mitchell together, you cheated, you lied, more trust lost, I gave you more chances, we had Michael together, you cheated, you lied, more trust lost, I gave you even more chances, you cheated, you lied 3 times in 12 months, I got sick of it and said I wanted a divorce, you left the house, refused to come back and refused to contribute financially to the debt that we entered in to TOGETHER.  You left me to fend for myself and the boys as a result of all your actions. 

As for the babysitting, we often organised a babysitter so we could go out.  What I am doing is occasionally organising a babysitter so I can go out to functions over which I cannot control the date.  You were quite happy to have my parent look after the boys so we could go out or so you could go to squash and me earn some extra money so DO NOT talk to me about double standards here every again. The fact of the matter is I DON’T TRUST TANYA to look after the boys, she is your friend, not mine. You trust my parents to look after the boys, otherwise you would have said no in the past.  While we are on the topic of Tanya and for the record, I know for a fact that my parents, your mother and even Sarah do not like her either.  That is why I do not want her looking after them.  You haven’t had a problem with my parents in the past.  If you wish to have your mother look after the boys so you can do something, I have NO problem with that.  So there are NO double standards here at all.

The house will not stand up in court as they will simply combine our resources into a pool.  What I THOUGHT, is that you had enough integrity to recognise that you didn’t pay toward the mortgage, therefore it’s only fair that you shouldn’t benefit from it.  However, if you do not have that integrity and care more about the money and the profit you can gain from the house that you did not pay for, then I will buy you out even though I don’t feel it is fair.  I will do it for the sake of the boys as I’m not looking for what I can benefit, but I am looking out for the welfare of the boys.  If you continue to bring up the ‘I paid for this and I pay for that’ argument, I will continue to bring up the ‘I paid for the house argument’.  It’s as simple as that.  Just to clarify, if you still want the money from the increase in value of the house that you did not pay for, then I will still pay you out if that’s all you care about.

 

From: Christie Thacker
Sent: Saturday, 22 November 2014 10:13 AM
To: Raymond Thacker
Subject: Re: package

wow you have a real nerve. I have givenyou an offer for the house.... I thought you were happy with that. 

The reason I need the information about your car is because of a form that has been sent to me saying that we are living under the same roof.... thats because of you not me.... so thay form asks for your rego and when the car was purchased. 

I just want to sort out my life and I can't do that with all this you stuff hanging over my head. thats why I would like it sorted. 

You agreed to the 56% to 42% of care on the form that you signed... are you saying that your no longer agreeing to that? 

 

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From: Raymond Thacker
Date:2014/11/22 00:13 (GMT+10:00)
To: Christie Thacker
Subject: RE: package

Okay, you realise I have other things to do than talk about your money affairs.  I have actually been upgrading 6 servers tonight but I don’t have to explain my personal or work life to you.  WOW, money AGAIN, your favourite topic!  You always seem to bring up yourself and your money.  If it’s not about your Centrelink application, it’s about the fact that you paid for clothes or toys for your children.  You always seem to forget who paid the largest bill of all, the one for the roof over our head.

My Centrelink application is my business and I will handle it.  Do not ask again as I do not ask about your personal finances.  I know you only care because you want your payments.  While we are talking about money, since you feel like you ‘own’ anything you paid for, if you would like to take all the clothes and toys that YOU purchased, feel free, take the fridge, washing machine, dryer and even Mitchell’s bed if you like, take Bella and her cage as you paid for all of those, however don’t forget to take your name off the title on the house as I have paid more than $100,000 for that (even before you were topping me up, do the math, $2,328 was the interest only part of the loan for McDermott avenue, so 4 years = 48 months.  48 x $2,328 = $111,744 that I have personally paid to the Commonwealth Bank as Interest only for the roof over our heads).  That’s excluding the last year and a half at Blackburn Road.  So if you want to take everything YOU’VE paid for away, then leave me with everything I’VE paid for.  That’s fair isn’t it?  If you think it’s not, feel free to take some clothes to Tanya’s house so you have something for the boys.  If you want a change of clothes, bring your own, I do not ask you for any ‘change of clothes’.

As for my car details, I see absolutely no reason why you would need them as the finance and registration is purely under my name.  Unless you can provide a reason for needing that information, I am not required to supply it.

Once again, you keep deceiving yourself and trying to deceive others about the fundamental cause of our marriage breakup.  Most people would have left you after the first or second occasion where you cheated and lied.  Instead, I stuck by you in the hope that you could sort things out and stop the behaviour.  As we know it did not stop over a 7 year period and actually became worse, three times in one year (that I KNOW of) is far too much and no-one (and there have been many) that I have spoken to would have stayed with you as long as I did.  I did not clean the house the way you would have liked because I was busy checking up on you, something I should NOT have to do.  I did not always stand up for you because you had proven time and time again that you will try to lie your way out of any situation you are uncomfortable with.  I requested a divorce when I found out that you had cheated YET AGAIN with Steve, despite you pretending that you wanted to work things out by suggesting the counselling. 

 

 

From: Christie Thacker
Sent: Thursday, 20 November 2014 10:04 PM
To: Raymond Thacker
Subject: Re: package

We both know that there was more than one reason why I marriage is over... if I am buying clothes for the boys thats fine but I expect a change of clothes that I can put them in to return to you. if I am buying the clothes I am not giving them to you....

I have the right to most of the clothes for the boys.... as I have paid for all of them. But i haven't taken all of them.... I should also take all the toys that I have got the boys but I haven't....

I tried to ring you tonight. have you told centrelink about the difference in what you said on the initial conversation that it was 70% to 30%? if we dont have the right information then it will take longer for the payments to start. 

 

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-------- Original message --------
From: Raymond Thacker
Date:2014/11/20 16:01 (GMT+10:00)
To: Christie Thacker
Subject: RE: package

Okay, but if you don't have many clothes for them, I can suggest one of two things:
1. Buy some, remembering that you caused our split and chose to leave the house where their clothes are.
2. Take some from our house, you do still have keys.  We will have to split up their clothes so that we both have some.  I consider it your responsibility to clothe them when they are with you.  You packed some toys and things when you first left, and you've visited Blackburn Road several times and had the opportunity to grab more then.  I don't know what you have or don't have, that, once again, is your responsibility as I can't be expected to know what clothes you do or don't have at all times.


From: Christie Thacker
Sent: Thursday, 20 November 2014 2:59 PM
To: Raymond Thacker
Subject: Re: package
you need to pack the boys bags better for when they come to me. I dont have a whole heap of clothes for them and you never pack pajamas or clothes for them. There is never a jumper in the bag or anything. You cant just expect me to have everything. 

 

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